Friday, February 13, 2009

Everyday Love

Everyday love should be just that, everyday. There should be no reason to have a holiday that is centered around being in love. If you are in love with someone, aren't you in love with that person everyday?? If you are with someone but not really in love with them yet you go to great extremes to do the Valentine deal, in my opinion all you've done is told a very expensive lie.
What about those people who are in love but aren't together? In case you didn't know, there are some folks that are in love but are just too stubborn to succumb to their feelings; or maybe there are just some far reaching circumstances that prevent them from being together. Should these people throw caution to the wind in the spirit of good ole Cupid and go for it all? I think not! Whatever reasons that were keeping them apart will not disappear simply because it's Valentine's day.
I'm sure it sounds like I am totally against Valentine's day, nothing is further from the truth; what I am against is people pretending to be in love simply because some creative person decided it would be cool to have a love holiday. Valentine's day in my view is any rainy evening when you cuddle up in bed and read a book or watch a movie with the person you are in love with. It's any time you look around and see that special person and are so overwhelmed with the love you have for them that you have to stop what you are doing, go over and put your arms around them and say "I love you". It's the small everyday things that make you appreciate being loved by the person you are with.
Flowers are beautiful, wine is sweet, a nice dinner is appetizing, but all of these things loose their luster if they aren't shared with that special someone. There is also no rule that says you have to wait for a holiday to share these things with your significant other.
Being in love is an everyday holiday, something to celebrate every chance you get. If you are blessed to be in love then by all means live it up this Valentines day, but don't let that be the only time you go the extra mile. If you are like me and are not fortunate enough to be with that person that makes your heart skip a beat, still be thankful, be patient, what is meant to be will be, and what is not meant to be is not for you. If you are simply just enjoying your single life, you too should celebrate; celebrate being secure enough with yourself to be in love with who you are; treat yourself to something special or kick it with some friends.
Lastly, for the sake of honesty, don't go through the charades of Valentine's day with someone you really aren't in love with just to say you had a Valentine, that's just plain wrong, and sad.
Oh... Happy Valentine's day!!


  1. Cheryl8:28 AM

    I was just telling one of my friends that this whole V-day holiday is just a money making scheme. You could have bought your woman flowers for last week for half of what you will spend today and tomorrow. Would the flowers mean less because she got them last week?

  2. Gerald8:48 AM

    Ok I'm about to blast this to all the women I've ever dated. They need to read and understand!

  3. Michael W.9:56 AM

    Well stated. I'm a true fan of being in love but I'm not much for over commercialized holidays. I like the title of the blog because being in love should be everyday.

  4. left a comment on 360, but i'll say that love everyday would heal the entire human condition. that alone gives this more of an emphasis than some will realize. very nice.

  5. Anonymous3:42 PM

    Holidays are overrated, just a way to get people to send money.

  6. Stop being a killjoy!! Just kidding, I enjoyed the blog and you made some good points.

  7. Anonymous8:54 PM

    You said a mouthfull

  8. true but when i hear folks say that i say they are whiners... Yup love is everyday so that mean on V Day you were going to show love anyway so what's the big deal unless you really don't show love everyday and the day makes you feel like you are forced to do it..

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